I have never been a big ‘people’ person. I often find it hard to assimilate in to group situations and I do not possess an iota of character strength that leans towards socialising or even relating well to most people. I am a bit of a black sheep and a bit of a loner, and while this has it’s downsides to be sure, I am mostly quite content and comfortable in my own little world.
With that in mind, something that has been hugely irritating me of late is all the people (family, friends… basic acquaintances) that have begun to creep out of the woodwork as the baby’s due date gets closer.
Every. Single. Day for the last week, I have received messages to the effect of:
“Still no baby??????? Gotta be close now?”
“How are you going with all this hot weather? Hopefully it will get the baby out.”
“I can't wait to see your little princess. Any movement below?”
“I've been thinking of you and pray bub decides to arrive earlier than planned!”
And a personal, straight to the point, favourite that seems to keep popping up: “Think Bub is coming soon?”
Don’t get me wrong, I do get it. To a degree anyway. I get that it is exciting, that a new baby brings people together and everyone loves to hear about new babies being born. I just tend to think that spending the last month of my pregnancy (when I am already cranky, tired and sore 100% of the time) being asked if I have birthed yet is a massive PAIN IN THE ASS that I really do not need as I sitting around waiting for the massive PAIN IN THE VAG that is heading my way!
Firstly, just to clear things up a little. No. I do not know when she will make her grand entrance. Who every knows this? Did I miss out on a pamphlet or something? If I had waited a little longer, would the Clearblue Digital pregnancy test that I took, almost nine months ago, have told me when she was going to pop out as well? Now THAT would be handy.
Secondly, do you think that we are going to have the baby and not tell anyone for weeks? To be honest, it is absolutely our perogative if that IS what we choose to do. Ben and I have joked about responding with "Oh yeah! Thanks for the reminder! She was born last week. Ooops. Forgot to let you know."
I think what grates me just that little bit more is that while this is our first daughter, this isn’t our first baby. She is not the first grandchild/great-grandchild/niece/nephew etc like Jackson was.
Ben and I were extremely aware and understanding of this when he was born. There were people who were phoned and notified of Jackson’s birth before I had even birthed the PLACENTA! Well, not this time buddy.
This time, Ben and I plan to notify people as soon as the baby is born. By as soon as, I mean as soon as WE are ready to. This is a special time for my family. Jackson, Ben and myself.
The rest of you will find out in good time. Until then please, kindly, get off my back.